Many dancers like to judge. We are quick to hand out honorary “asshole” cards to anyone we don’t like (or who doesn’t like us).
Why? Because we assume the other person has something against us. And because there could not possibly be any good reason for it, they must be an asshole.
Thing is, other people have problems. Their problems are not about you. You don’t even know what their problems are; how can you judge their actions? Do you want people judge your actions without knowing you? Give you the cold shoulder? Talk about you behind your back?
When you judge, you look at how a person is acting and assume you know why—despite the fact that you are not completely clued into their world. Or, if you do know about their problems superficially, you think they should respond in a certain way you can understand. If not, they’re an asshole, right?
You don’t need me to tell you this way of looking at others is egotistical and narcissistic. Hopefully this post will help you engage your empathy muscle more frequently.
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